Biracial Hair Care Tips & Guide

I have written a short general guide called: African and Biracial Children’s Hair Care tips. It’s available on our website. I wrote that guide at the request of many frustrated mothers. We often receive emails from adoptive mothers of African American children and white mothers of biracial children. That guide gives some rules-of-thumb that are useful in developing your own hair care regimen or one for your child. But, I have found that people are requesting more detail as to exactly what to do.  They want tips for bi-racial hair care that are more specific. Unfortunately, I can’t tell you exactly what’s best for you or for your child. I purposely avoided a cookbook approach in the original guide because proper maintenance of hair is more of an art than a science. Every person’s hair is slightly different and therefore requires a slightly different maintenance routine. Even my two daughters, with the same father and mother, have different hair types. I find that an oil that is great for one is too heavy for the other. After years of trial and error that I have developed regimens that work best for each of the three of us. While my own children are not biracial, I do have several biracial nieces and newphews and have helped many people with biracial children.  So, I do have hands-on expertise in this area.  I am still tweaking the routines for my daughters as I find new products and as I gain more experience. But, I will share my tips and routines with you. These should be useful starting points for you to develop your own routine. Biracial hair care can be even more difficult to figure out than African hair care. We are often approached by White mothers who have given birth to children with hair very dissimilar to theirs and what they are used to. Interracial (actually, transracial) adoptions are becoming more common, creating the same situation. Most African Americans are multi-racial. So, African American hair has a wide variety of textures and needs. Biracial hair care must cover an even broader range of textures and needs.  

Expectations for Biracial Hair

The number one complaint we get about black hair is that it looks dry or dull. We get the same complaint about biracial hair, followed closely by complaints of “frizzyness” and difficulty in combing. Before you go too far to make your natural hair full of sheen and shine, it’s best to have the proper expectation. Natural Black or African hair will not be as shiny as permed hair or Caucasian hair. A major part of what makes hair shiny is the structure of the hair, not just the amount of oil or moisture it contains. If the cuticles lay flat (smooth hair), the hair will reflect light better (translated will appear shiny). If the cuticles are raised, the hair will absorb light (translated will appear more dull). Without changing the structure of the hair (as in getting a perm or relaxer for us African Americans), our hair will only be so shiny. By applying a lot of grease (see below for the types of oils I recommend) to make it shinier, you could end up damaging the hair. Having said that, natural African hair can appear healthy, smooth and have a nice healthy sheen. As I said, the second complaint we get most often about biracial hair is that it is too curly or too frizzy. There are some things you can do to control frizzyness and curliness. But, if you want to effect “permanent” (permanent until it grows out anyway) changes, you are looking at a chemical process. One thing we often advise mothers about though is please do not expect your child’s hair to be like yours. And, please do not make her feel as though something is wrong with her hair because it’s “frizzy” or curly. You should picture your child’s hair as a collection of fine fibers. You should treat it as gently as you would a fine washable silk blouse. The better you treat her hair, the easier it will be to grow and the better it will look. You should be aware that African hair and biracial hair tends to be drier than Caucasian hair. The structure of our hair makes it more difficult for the oils to work their way from the scalp to the ends of the hair. Because our hair is kinky, it tends to tangle more and pulling these tangles out can cause breakage. In spite of appearances, black hair and biracial hair tends to be more fragile than Caucasian hair. The lack of moisture and elasticity and the kinks that get grabbed when styling or combing make for hair that can be broken easily. Someone once asked me if natural hair is meant to be combed. Actually, the answer probably is no. I don’t think our hair was structured to be combed at all. So, as long as we’re going to do it, we have to do it causing the least amount of damage possible. Both of my daughters have natural hair. We receive a lot of compliments about their hair. They are technically not biracial. We have a mixed heritage (as do most African Americans). But, many of the same things I do for them can be adapted for biracial hair care. Here are my “secrets”.


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ARTICLES: Biracial Kids Curly Hair Styles

Biracial children's hair can sometimes be difficult to style because of the natural tight curls and springiness of the hair. Many people will get the child's hair relaxed or have it put up in tight braids. However, when the hair is worn naturally curly, it can be absolutely beautiful. There are many ways to style biracial children's curly hair.

SPIRAL DOWN

Biracial children can wear their hair down and curly, if their natural, spiraling curls are cared for correctly. One of the most important rules about maintaining curly hair is that it should not be washed more than once or twice a week. However, rinsing the hair each night is beneficial so there will not be a buildup of products on the hair. Biracial hair is naturally dryer than other types of hair, so washing it too often will deplete the hair of its natural oils. Another rule is that the hair must be detangled every day. The way to do this is to use detangler product or leave-in conditioner before you comb through the curls. Never comb through dry curls, or this will damage the hair. Once the hair is detangled, use a special hair oil or styling gel and scrunch the curls. Let them air dry. This will keep the curls from becoming frizzy.

PONYTAILS

Ponytails can be a beautiful and easy hairstyle on curly-haired children. However, there are some important upkeep rules about ponytails. The first rule is that the ponytail needs to be held in place with a cloth-covered band made specifically for hair. Rubber bands and ponytail holders with metal on them are too harsh on curly hair. They will pull the hair out and get tangled easily. The second rule is that the ponytail should not be too tight so the hair and scalp do not become damaged. Biracial curly hair can be fragile, and it needs to be taken care of. The third rule about ponytails is that they should never be worn to bed. The hairband could end up in a tangled disaster in the morning. The best way to preserve curls during sleep is to sleep on a silk or satin pillowcase or use a silk or satin sleeping cap.

LOOSE BRAIDS

Loose braids are another way for biracial children to show off their lovely curls. Braids that are too tight often pull on the child's scalp and can be very painful. Looser braids provide an opportunity for beautiful stray curls to hang by the face while the rest of the hair is pulled back into a braid. To create a loose braid, take the hair into three sections. Braid the hair like usual, but do not pull it too tight. Make sure the hair has leave-in conditioner or oil in it to keep it from becoming frizzy. Add a little extra product to the hair where the braid is secured, and scrunch it so the hair at the end of the braid will spiral into ringlets.

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Curly, Kinky, or Biracial Children's Hair Naturally!

General maintenance and some mastering hair care tips.

It is important to a little girl's developing self-image to have a positive view of herself, including her hair. Natural hair is beautiful and I always encourage embracing it! So no matter what type of hair you have, you can learn how to manage it and eliminate damage if you know what you are doing and are armed with the right products and tools. By following some simple tips and product recommendations, taking care of your child's hair can be a pain free and pleasant experience for you both.

Step 1: Washing

This has to be one of the most dreaded experiences for children with textured hair. The first thing you should do is decided if you need to use shampoo or can get the hair clean with a cleansing conditioner (you will need to clarify if you have a swimmer). There are a lot of options for getting "fresh hair" with out harsh soap. Sweat and sebum are both sterile; leaving it in your hair too long is what attracts unwanted bacteria. Our Favorite way to cleanse is conditioner rinsing, it is an awesome way to get the hair clean with out using harsh stripping detergents found in shampoos.

What you will need to do:

Wet your hair thoroughly. Put the cleansing conditioner in your hand. Starting at your temple use your finger tips to gently massage product through your scalp. Then do a milking motion on down the length of your hair. Smooth the conditioner through your hair with out tangling it up, while creating friction. Leaving it on long enough to penetrate, then rinse out all of the way.

Step 2:Conditioning

Re-condition fresh hair with a daily instant moisturizing conditioner, or if you need a heavier product you can use a deep conditioner. Apply selected product generously to hair, from root to tips and comb through ensuring even saturation. Let set a few minutes or put a shower cap on for the duration of the shower for ultimate penetration. This is an important step for long hair, curls, chemically treated, or blow fried hair to have the much-needed extra moisture.

Step 3: Detangling

If you did a comb out with conditioner in the hair as directed above this step should be pain free. Always detangle hair dampened, never dry. Spray in a detangler all over towel dried hair. Use a wide tooth comb to divide the hair into sections. De- tangle small sections of hair instead of the whole head at once it will be so much faster. Remember to be gentle there is a head attached. Start at the tips of the hair and work toward the roots. Be sure to hold the root firmly to lessen pulling pain. When you get a section detangled, moisturize, moisturize, and moisturize! Use creamy products instead of holding gels, mousse, and hair spray, then braid section so that it doesn't get re-tangled.

Helpful tools and products to avoid comb-out tears:

• Snag-Free/Ouch less ponytail holders Wide tooth comb or pick
• Rat tail comb for straight parts
• Natural boar bristle brush for smoothing down ponies
• Clarifying Conditioner
• Hydrating shampoo (If you decide to use shampoo use SLS)
• Moisturizing Conditioner
• Daily moisturizer / detangler)/ for comb outs
• Natural oils or creamy hair moisturizer/ stylers

Help eliminate damage and always use wide tooth comb and natural brushes.

Step 4: Styling

Styling Your Daughter's Hair should be a pleasure and not a chore, for either of you. When you find styles that work with her hair, it is easier to style and more enjoyable for your both. How you style your child's hair will depend on how old they are and what activities the are involved in. When she starts to take interest in how she looks you might consider asking her for input in how she wants to wear her hair. Below are some fun helpful suggestions for styling.

Braids and Cornrows Are pretty and the smaller the sections the longer the style will last! Braiding tiny braids may take longer but they again they last. My daughter's favorite was pigtails with a ton of tiny braids. I remember getting up to 20 swinging ponies on each side. Natural braids offer an endless amount of styling possibilities. If you don't know how to cornrow try scalp twists with a little gel. Be creative and consider letting her wear a braid out when it is time to take the braids down. Next to braids cornrows are a natural home stylist's essential. They can be combined with braids, twists, or Bantu knots. You can cornrow the front of her hair and pull back the rest into a moisturizing bun. If you cornrow your child's hair small the style can last a week or more.

Twist can be done large or small. If your daughter likes to wear her hair down this is a nice way to keep it under control around her face. Use a thick butter such as Shea to lock in style and then braid a few big sections with moisturizer in the back to be let out the next morning when dry. Use your imagination!
Afros and Puffs - I think every little girl should be able to wear her hair completely out and loose or in a puff at least once in a while. It reaffirms the fact that her hair is beautiful and can be left alone to look good too.
Bantu Knots Bantu Knots are another fun ethnic style. They are a great hair stretcher that naturally loosening the curl. She can wear them up for a while and then take them down for a controlled wave pattern that is beautiful down.

Biracial Children's Hair- I have biracial children, so I sympathize with other mothers of biracial children because I know what they go through. I have clients with mixed children, friends who are mixed, as well as family members who are mixed or have mixed children. Whether you are a black or white mother I know that hair issues can be hard and sometimes a daunting experience. The tips above should be helpful. Although I am a hair stylist this is all do-able for home hair care. Together we will master a hair regime that will be fast and effective, just like a pro.

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